Beautiful India: A Myth

"Girls are as beautiful as flowers,

they need to be nurtured and cared or else they will start fading their beauty. Case would be worse when someone you love leaves hope of living"

There a lot of things we know about our incredible India. 

Yes!! Don’t we all know about Taj Mahal, which is one of the wonders of the world. It also stands for the symbol of Love. 

Many of us want to spend our vacation at hill-stations like Jammu and Kashmir, Sikkim, Ooty, Nainital and others. 

Many photographers click and upload beautiful snaps of Red Fort, Rajasthan’s desert, Mumbai’s tall dome buildings, on various social sites. We all are surrounded by such beauties for which we proudly say, “I am proud to be an Indian.”

Well, are we really proud ???

Think again, are we really proud ???

If your answer is still yes, then I would like to show you some ugly faces of our country. There are a lot many things which will make you realize where our country is leading to…..

Rape:

Screw other countries, let alone take the case of India.

A rape takes place every 20 minutes in India. Statistics show that the number of rapes has risen steadily. But only 10% of all rapes get reported and 24% of these cases see convictions.

Your eyes must have popped up by now. But let me show you some more ugly things.

Rape and sexual assault are crimes that are not defined by time, location, caste or even age. Sex offenders too, cannot be defined as being of a particular ‘type’. Acts of sexual violence are committed even by relatives, friends and colleagues, apart from complete strangers. These acts are often a display of power, authority and domination, and not committed only out of lust. In India, not only a girl of Twenties or Thirties is vulnerable of being raped but even a girl of four year and ninety-three sometimes serves as victim.

Yes, some days before, a girl of four years was raped in the capital city of our country.

Now here arises a question, why someone do such a cruel act ??

I remember, some days back, when I was having a group chat with some of my friends, one of my friend said, no one else but the girl, herself is responsible of being raped.

Do you agree to this ????

If yes, then I would say, friend you are suffering from cheap mentality disorder. Yeah! You heard it right; you are suffering from “CHEAP MENTALITY DISORDER”

I hope, you know what Rape is?? If you don’t let me brush up some of our knowledge:

According to Indian law, a man is said to commit rape if:

• He applies his mouth to or penetrates the vagina, urethra, anus or mouth of a woman without her consent, using his penis, fingers or an object.
• He forces her to do the same with him or another person.

The above two points is more than enough to disclose who the culprit could be. It’s the MALE; the MALE of our society are the ones who are solely responsible for such acts. A Girl, a Female, in no way can be proved to be guilty.

Some of you will now say, the dress/the attire, to be precise, shorts wore by girls provoke a man to rape.

If you say so, I will say, you are suffering from “CHEAP MENTALITY DISORDER”

We are in 21^st century, where man and woman both are said and treated as equals. So if a male has the permission to wear anything of his choice, then why his female counterpart doesn’t have the same right. Who are we, to decide what she will wear and what she shouldn’t. She has the same rights as of any other male.

In no way, a girl provokes a BOY.

NOTE:

Some things you can say to a survivor of rape :

• It's not your fault.
• Don’t question yourself; you did nothing wrong.
• You are not the reason this happened.
• You are not alone.
• This is not the end of your life.

Some things you should not say to a survivor or rape:

• At least you are alive! You're luckier than many others.
• Were you a virgin? What about your family's honour?
• Maybe it wasn’t how you think it was, maybe it wasn't rape.
• When will you get over this?
• You should just forgive and forget.

To read my other post on Women,  Click Here

P.S: Some stats and ideas are taken from the website of Satyamev Jayate !!!

GIRL : A BOON or DISGRACE

" If You Cant Care & Love Her; 

             You Don't Deserve Her "

It’s being said that we live in 21^stcentury where modernization from the western countries is very much adapted by the Indians. We consider ourselves no less than those living in U.S or U.K

In this present era, Women are considered as equals to Men. In many fields we have also seen, that Women are surpassing and outclassing their counterparts.

But this is only what we see, the truth is very much different, especially in India. 

Women were never considered equal to Men, neither in the 19^th century, nor in the 20^thand not even now (except in some fields).

We all are different in nature and so do we have different opinions. Now I will justify my opinions on this, which will be agreed by many (hope so).

Female Foeticide and Infanticide:

Both, Foeticide and Infanticide are similar type of offence, former is done pre-birth and the latter happens post-birth.

Female Foeticide means aborting a foetus(baby inside a mother’s womb) only because it is a female. This is a major social problem which is still being prevailing in many parts of India; especially in the states of Punjab, Haryana, U.P, Gujarat, Bihar and other North-Indian states.

Pre-Sex determination is regarded as a serious crime but still many do so to check whether the baby going to born in future is a male or female. If it’s being a female, they are killed inside the mother’s womb by certain medical procedures which are totally illegal.

Female Infanticide is a post-birth measure where the baby is killed if it’s a female. Many a times it happens without the approval of the mother.

We say we are living in a modern era, we have to maintain an image, a personality so that we will be respected but such things still being prevailing in different parts.

Men are being considered equal to a Woman but a case of Male-Foeticide or Male-Infanticide has never been heard until now.

 Dowry System:

Dowry system or Dahej(in hindi) system means payment of gifts or cash to bridegroom (or to his family). It includes, cash, jewellery, electrical appliances, furniture and other household items.

It is generally seen, once a baby girl is born in a family, her father tries to save a surplus amount of money for his daughter’s marriage not because he is happy doing it but because he is bound to do it.

Dowry is an evil crime, not only accepting is a crime but even giving is also considered as crime and both are treated equal.

In India, about 20,000 cases of Dowry are being registered every year. And if the offering from the bride’s family doesn’t meet with the groom family’s demand then the girl faces a lot difficulty in her marriage life.

Its only a female who gets torture (killed or being burnt alive) but such things never happens with a male… And we say, Women are treated equally to Men.

Dowry and Foeticide are interlinked with each other. The only reason why the baby girls are killed is, their parents think them as burden or if they are financially poor.

                        "Be A Man, Say No To Dowry !!! "


 Domestic Violence:

These problems have became quite less in recent days but still the saas-bahus problem is prevailing in some family.

A husband should take care of his wife. I am not saying to ignore your mother completely while doing so but remember that you have responsibility for your wife too.

If your Mother is upset by something your wife said, she should speak about it to your wife directly, and they should clear it out amongst themselves.

If she still wants you to know about it, let her speak to you in front of your wife and not behind her back. Do not react until you have given your wife a chance to present her side of the story.

Never, ever fight with your wife in front of your mother. It will only double her hurt. If you feel your wife was harsh with your mother for whatever reason, speak to her about it in private, and keep an open mind to listen to her point of view.

Some Words For All:

• Those who think accepting Dowry is a crime should also know that even giving Dowry is a crime. One can give whatever he/she wants to to her daughter but that should not be being pressurized by the groom’s family.

• If a Groom is a real man, he should oppose any kind of Dowry. Get married only if you can meet her and your own family’s demand by your own and not with the money of in-laws.

• If you are a Father than why do you need to give Dowry?? You are blessed with a god gifted angel and you should feel proud of it and say no to Dowry.

• Giving Dowry is quite similar to selling your own daughter to a selfish man (can be stated as DOG here) that don’t even deserve a beautiful angel like your Daughter.

• Speak to your wife as a friend, without blaming her. She has come to you leaving her home behind holding your hand.

• Remember, your wife is not a goddess or a saint. Yes, she does have flaws. But it wont be fair to say that your mother is correct and fair everytime. Take decisions after listening to both of them and try to get in their shoes before accusing any.